The Subtle Art of Saying Sorry And Burying The Hatchet

by Note with Love Team - Sep 29, 2023
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“Apology brings people together,” as the saying goes. A single apology has the power to mend a broken relationship, reconcile, and heal hearts.

Sometimes, the things we do or the words we say unintentionally hurt the feelings of others. Even though we may not feel that we are at fault, there are times when an apology is necessary to mend and strengthen a relationship. One sincere apology can bury the hatchet between two people and bring them closer together, for life.

In this article I am going to shed light on how to say sorry to people who we hold close to our hearts.

How to Bury The Hatchet?

If you’ve ever been deeply hurt, you probably understand how difficult it is to get over the hurt and mend the relationship. That is why it is essential to bury the hatchet and move on.

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What does “bury the hatchet” mean?

By forgiving someone who has wronged you, you put an argument or conflict to rest and bury the hatchet.

So, if you end up seriously hurting someone or if someone has wronged you, the first thing you should do is accept responsibility for your actions. Try to understand the other person’s perspective. Apologize for not seeing their point before, for being rude or for simply putting your relationship under strain. Make a commitment to mending the relationship.

Last but not least, give them some time to think things over because it’s important for the other person to let go of any resentments or negative emotions and move on with a positive mindset.

Why is it important to say sorry and mean it?

Sincere apologies are a core part of happy relationships since they convey your respect for the other person’s feelings. Saying sorry for hurting someone, whether on purpose or accidentally, shows that you understand the consequences of your actions and are prepared to accept responsibility for them.

On the other hand, a half-hearted sorry can cause even greater harm rather than settling disputes and averting misunderstandings. It can cause resentment, feelings of betrayal, and communication breakdown. So when you apologize, be sincere about it because it gives the other person a chance to express their thoughts and feelings, which fosters better understanding and better communication.

Accept And Apologize

Accepting and apologizing can be a tough and mortifying process, but it is a necessary step in rebuilding relationships and trust. An effective apology must acknowledge what went wrong, express regret, and take steps to avoid the same missteps from happening again. So when crafting a sorry message, you must include all the essential parts.

With a genuine apology, you can put the hurt behind you and develop a stronger bond with the other person.

No matter who you’ve hurt—a friend, a coworker, or a loved one—the following apologies can go a long way toward mending a rift in a relationship.

Sorry message for boyfriend or husband

If you have hurt your boyfriend or husband, express your regret writing an apology message to him. Here’s some emotional sorry message for boyfriend or husband.

  • I deeply regret hurting you. Sorry; I was wrong. From now on, I’ll try to be a more considerate and understanding partner. Please forgive me.
  • My dear, I want you to know how deeply I regret what I did. I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now. I apologize and accept full ownership of my actions.
  • I sincerely hope that you will find it in your heart to pardon me and give me the opportunity to prove how much I care for and admire you. I swear I’ll make things right. 

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I am sorry messages for wife or girlfriend

  • To my dearest, please accept my heartfelt apologies for causing you pain. What I did was wrong. I’m hoping we can work together to repair our relationship. I love you above all else, and I deeply regret what I did.
  • I sincerely apologize for my behavior and the suffering I have brought you. I am truly sorry for what I said or did; it was never my intention to hurt you. 
  • My love, I know that saying sorry won’t be enough to take away the hurt I have caused you. Please know that I am truly sorry for my behavior.

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Sorry message for family

  • I apologize if I’ve caused anyone any suffering or harm. I love you guys and care about our family and want to fix things for us.
  • I’m sorry; I realize I was in error. Hope we can continue to grow in understanding and empathy.

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Sorry messages for friend

  • I am extremely sorry for any confusion. I hope we can put this behind us because I value you a lot.
  • I regret what I said and did. I never intended to hurt you; you are a dear friend.
  • I truly apologize for all the hurtful words. More than anything, I cherish our friendship and would never intentionally hamper it.

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Sorry messages for coworker

  • I sincerely apologize for any inconvenience or annoyance my behavior may have caused you. I’m hoping we can put this behind us and proceed in a constructive and positive way.
  • I want to say that I’m sorry for my errors and that I’ll do everything in my power to avoid making the same mistakes again. I’m hoping that our collaboration will be productive going forward.

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Apologizing quotes

I’m sorry I was awful. I’m so full of terrors.

The Sacred And Profane Love Machine by Iris Murdoch

Never ruin an apology with an excuse.

Benjamin Franklin

I love you and I always will and I am sorry. What a useless word.

The Garden of Eden by Ernest Hemingway

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Don’t let the myths of saying sorry ruin your healthy relationships. Being able to see through oneself is a great quality in and of itself. So, never think it’s too late to say sorry and bury the hatchet. Remember, a genuine apology has the same healing power as morphine for a hurting soul.

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